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What do you guys think... I think the guy should always pay first! But maybe I'm old school.
The man should pay
I old and don't date anymore. When I did I paid. I didn't mind paying because thats the way things are. That said it's condescending to women. Chivalry is just a way of claiming male superiority. It's supposed to show respect and benevolence but all that comes at a huge price for women. It comes at the expense of equality. Love can flourish without preconceived notions about who we think we are. Its just a game. Like conventional beauty an illusion. Women paint themselves powder themselves prop themselves up on hi heels and walk around in kilts to show femininity. To show masculinity men merely stifle the truth of their sensitivity. In truth most men are afraid of women. In traditional society woman hold the power of validity to men. We need validity. When we get regected it tells us our worst scenario. That we're mundane, even somewhat invisible to beautiful women. We hide our vulnerability by acting debonair or powerful. We root for Sports teams because we're afraid of getting laughed at in bed. Men can never come to grips with the fact of how badly they just need to be held. Instead they act like Neanderthals and somtimes fight wars.
I dont mean most women in the world. I mean most women who have publicly spoke about this topic. Or the thousands of movies, tv shows, interviews, etc, that make it very clear on the "expectations" of a mans roll especially on the first date.
Women aren't the only ones who make it seem as if men need to be chivalrous. Men do it too. A lot.
Most women sadly live in a fairy tail of "pick and choose" best scenarios. They want equality but only the beneficial or good side of whatever they think equality is. First date, as well as many following "dates" should be paid for buy whomever orders something. This expectation of men always paying is generally only expected by women who think they should be treated like queens. News flash. Your not royalty. Do you deserve to be treated fair and nice, yes, but you for sure do not deserve any additional respect or treatment that you give to others.
By "most women" I assume you mean most women that you know personally. You certainly don't know most women in the world and it's extremely stupid of you to assume that "most women" think they should be treated like queens. By default, it seems like many men believe they need to pay for dates. They probably don't want to seem not chivalrous and they may want to attract a woman. It's not like women tell their dates, "You're paying because you're a man and you should take care of me."
Each person should pay for their own food.
whoever wants to pay should pay, isn't that obvious. I mean if you have to fight over it